Let’s get one thing straight: using lubricant isn’t just for people “who need help.” It’s for everyone who wants to enjoy more comfortable, pleasurable, and connected intimacy—whether solo or with a partner.
In fact, lube can be the difference between “meh” and mind-blowing. Studies show that using lubes during sex can lead to an increase in sexual satisfaction – and who doesn't want that?
Whether you’re navigating hormone changes, stress, new medications, or just want to elevate your experiences, lubricant is one of the most underrated (and underused) tools in the bedroom. And yes, it works for all types of bodies, relationships, and desires.
Why Should You Use Lube?
1. It Reduces Friction and Discomfort
Even if you're naturally lubricated, that doesn’t mean it’s always enough. Vaginal tissue is delicate, and friction from sex or toys can lead to discomfort, chafing, or even tiny micro-tears. Lube adds a smooth, slippery barrier that enhances pleasure and minimizes irritation.
2. Your Body Isn’t Always in Sync
Arousal doesn’t always lead to lubrication—especially if you're stressed, tired, breastfeeding, or taking certain medications. That doesn’t mean your body is broken. It just means your brain and body may need different things. Lube helps bridge the gap.
3. It Enhances Toy Play
Whether you're exploring solo or with a partner, toys and lube go hand-in-hand. Silicone or glass toys especially need that extra glide to reduce resistance and increase sensation.
4. Lube Makes Sex Safer
More lubrication means fewer chances of condom breakage and less chance of irritation. This helps reduce the risk of infections and makes safer sex… well, sexier.
5. It Can Be a Turn-On
Applying lube together can be a sensual part of foreplay. It's a great way to slow down, pay attention to each other's bodies, and be more intentional with touch.
Choosing the Right Lube: Types and Their Benefits
All lubricants are not created equal. Here's a breakdown of the most common types and what they’re best for:
💧 Water-Based Lubricant
Pros:
- Safe to use with condoms and all toy materials (including silicone)
- Easy to clean and wash off
- Feels lightweight and natural
Cons:
- May need to reapply during longer sessions (can dry out faster)
- Not ideal for shower or water play
Best For: Everyday use, toy play, and partnered sex. A great go-to option, especially if you’re new to lube.
Need suggestions?
Best every day lubricant: Water-Based Personal Lubricant
Great for every day hyaluronic acid moisturizing benefits: Euforia Water Based or Wicked Simply Timeless Aqua Jelle
Trying to conceive? FDA cleared fertility friendly Conceptria
Pain or Discomfort or want a more elevated feeling? C B D infused
✨ Silicone-Based Lubricant
Pros:
- Ultra-long-lasting and silky smooth
- Great for water play (shower, bath, hot tub)
- Doesn’t dry out or absorb into the skin quickly
Cons:
- Can degrade silicone toys (check your toy compatibility!)
- Needs soap and water to fully wash off
Best For: Longer sessions, anal play, or when you want maximum glide.
Suggested products (PS, these are safe to use with the silicone accessories in my store!!):
Euforia Silicone Based Lubricant
🍓 Flavored Lubricant
Pros:
- Adds a fun, playful twist to oral sex
- Often water-based and body-safe
- Encourages exploration and communication
Cons:
- Some may contain sugars or sweeteners—check the ingredients!
- Not ideal for internal use unless labeled as safe
Best For: Oral sex and bringing in a little flavor to your fun.
Suggested products:
Whipped - great for oral, using with masturbating sleeves, and edible massages!
Sensations - gets hot with friction!
Water Based Sweet Maple - Tastes like the real maple syrup!!
Anal Play
Anal play can be fun and enjoyable with the right lubricant! Water based is not the best recommended because that area is not naturally moisturized so it will be absorbed quickly. Silicone based is the best option as it cannot be absorbed by the skin. It stays on the surface longer so it provides a silkier and more comfortable sensation.
Now if you are going to be using silicone accessories. The best options will be a hybrid or I also recommend Wicked Water Based Anal Lubricant with Relaxants as it is thicker and more cushiony.
Perimenopause or Menopause
If you are entering this stage of your life, you may have noticed that things are not quite the same anymore. More dryness, less sensitivity, more discomfort, and maybe even experiencing pain. First, I want to highly recommend and encourage talking to your health care professional about vaginal estrogen therapy. Estrogen plays a key role in maintaining vaginal tissue and lubrication. When your estrogen declines, it can cause dryness, itchiness, discomfort during sex, and even increases your risk of UTI's.
This is also why it's important to use a good lubricant, not only for sex, but also for everyday use to help maintain tissue moisture overtime. I recommend using Euforia Water Based Moisturizer or Wicked Simply Timeless Aqua Jelle.
I even created a whole kit to help support you during this phase of your life. Check out my Revival Kit.
Final Thoughts
Using lubricant isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a sign of intention. It means you care about your body, your pleasure, and your partner’s comfort. Whether you're deepening intimacy, exploring new sensations, or just want sex to feel better, lube can completely elevate the experience.
Want to try a new lube but not sure which one’s right for you?
DM me or check out my store for expert picks, body-safe options, and a little guidance on what works best for your needs.